Advice on taking it all!
Can you give me some advice on how to deepthroat when giving oral sex? I don't know how to get past my gag reflex. I've tried several different things and they haven't worked. Is this just something you're born with, or is there some secret thing you can do? I've heard about using a lubricant. Does that work, and what would be the best kind to use. I would love to do this for my boyfriend? Thank you bunches,
Blow Job Betty
Dearest Blow Job Betty,
Let me start by saying that deepthroating doesn’t have to be the end all of BJs. It's great if you can do it, but many can't. I do believe some people just will never be able to manage it without gagging. I've never tried using lubrication but it could work since usually saliva plays a large role. If you do use lube, make sure it's safe for ingestion and that you can handle the taste (or else you'll be gagging on that, too).
You should first learn to work with what you have, which is a lot—namely, enthusiasm! Nothing gets a guy hotter than a girl who loves his cock. Show him that with your eyes, with your actions, with your mouth! Put that tongue to use and find all his sweet spots. Don't neglect the balls—or the perineum, if he's into it (if he's really into it, don't rule out a prostate massage! I guarantee he won't be thinking of deepthroating at that moment!).
However, if you're really set on adding this last trick to your repertoire, here is my advice. Relax. Don't psyche yourself up and don't force yourself down. Get good and hot for it first—if you're into it, chances are you'll be better equipped to handle him. Breathing is important: keep it steady, deep, and through your nose. Time your breaths so that when his dick touches the back of your throat, you have lots of air to get you through. If you feel yourself gagging, pull back, breathe, and try again. Don't try to force through the gag right away—it will improve! The best way I've found to handle deepthroating is to swallow around the penis. This should alleviate your gag reflex (like with swallowing food) enough that you can get his tip into your throat.
From there, don't force yourself. Don't go too fast or too deep before you're ready. It might take a good few times before you can swallow him successfully. Don't even think about practising on veggies—there's a lovely cock available and believe me, he isn’t going to be complaining even if you're not able to take it all.
If you have sex questions that need answers, just ask! You can either send me a private message or email me at kathleendevries@live.com. All questions will be posted competely anonymously, and I will never share your information.