Pillow Talk: Kara Sutra

It seems that everyone is taking to Youtube to bitch, praise, whine, and blather to try and become a viral video star. Built-in and inexpensive webcams give these folks the portal they need to tell us to stop bugging Britney or that a double rainbow is the most brilliant thing in the world. Fortunately, there are actually a plethora of videos that  provide useful insight, particularly on sex and sexuality? How can viewers possibly wade through all of this to find valuable information?

If you're looking to learn about sex, look no futher than Kara_Sutra. Her series of Youtube videos are an internet sensation and full of advice and tips. Sexlife Canada caught up with her to discuss making videos and sex education.

SLC: What made you want to start the Sex Ed 102 channel?
KS: About 6 years ago I started working in an adult novelty store where it was expected that we learn everything we could regarding human anatomy (in regard to sex/sexuality), sexual techniques, sex toy materials, what each product was and how to safely use it, common misconceptions regarding sex/STD's/sexuality and to challenge our perceptions of what "healthy sexuality" meant. Through this position I had customers ask various questions on a daily basis; some were regarding issues I thought were common knowledge (if we have sex in the shower we don't need protection right?), some were based on a lack of knowledge about their body (my clitoris is inside my vagina right?), other's were rare and extremely unique (regarding "furries", types of role play and the safety issues to consider). It was this experience that lead me to believe Sex Ed 102 could be something people would possibly benefit from. I made my first video based on a whim and within 24 hours it had 100,000 YouTube hits, that was what sold me on my idea.

SLC: You describe yourself as having a trucker's mouth, what's the dirtiest thing you've said in the videos?
KS: In real life I tend to swear quite a bit which is why I say I have a "truckers mouth", however, YouTube doesn't leave much room for swearing or "foul" language so I've had to tone it down quite a bit for the videos. I think the "dirtiest" things I've said were in reference to body parts, using other words to describe them rather then the technical term i.e. "Pussy", "Ass", "Cock", "Taint" etc.—really nothing that bad. That said, I posted a video featuring strap-ons since I was very often asked about them from my viewers, within a matter of days the video was removed from YouTube by the site. So considering that, I think it may have been one of the most
"controversial" videos I have made.

SLC: What has been your favourite toy to review?
KS: That's a really tough question considering I love the vast majority of products I review!! One of my faves would have to be the We Vibe because it allowed me and my partner to try/test a toy together, rather than separately. I also loved the G-Ki by Je Joue because it was the very first product I reviewed that was fully customizable, meaning you could alter it's shape to fit your bodies needs. Honorable mention goes out to the Striptease Kit simply because it was one of the most fun kits I ever found and the Fleshlight, every time I see one I get hit with a bout of serious penis envy!

SLC: Do you see yourself ever moving into a more "traditional" sexual education role?
KS: I thought about making a transition to the classroom, but based on the level of censorship and rules or regulations I think I might face I don't know if it would be a good idea. In my opinion, sex ed should be all inclusive and teach everything a person should know, while also encouraging responsible, safe, informed and positive
choices, not just telling them "don't have sex because you'll get an STD or get pregnant" or "don't have anal sex because it's dirty". With that last quote in mind, you'd be surprised with the number of teens who engage in anal sex to avoid losing their "virginity". What they don't realize is that unless they are using lube and going about it in a safe manner, there is a likely chance they could do some damage—the reason they don't realize it is due to the fact that they aren't taught about it—if they were, they would be able to make that decision with their own safety
and well being in mind. This is something that definitely needs to change and should be added to any "safe sex" teachings.
As for other platforms for Sex Ed 102, I'd love to host a show that's a mix of Talk Sex With Sue, Sin Cities, Kink and Sexperience, where I focus on a different topic each episode and travel to sexual wellness stores, events in different cities (like the Everything To Do With Sex Show, AVN awards, AEE, Museum Of Sex), and speak with
professionals/personalities within the community to find the answers or insight to the topic at hand.

SLC: What is the most pressing issue you think Canadians need more sexual education in?
KS: From what I've experienced most Canadians are very open-minded individuals, they tend not to judge others for their actions or choices, whether behind closed doors or out in the open, so for me it would be something bigger than basic Sex Ed. That said, I think teaching about the different STD/STI's and making it a habit of getting tested is of utmost importance (no matter where you live).

SLC: What did you think of the proposed—and then scrapped—Ontario sex ed curriculum?
KS: Since sex education is a topic I'm very passionate about, the proposed curriculum was something I stood behind with pride, positive anticipation and enthusiasm. It was our opportunity to set the bar for others to follow. When I heard they were scrapping it, well, disappointment just isn't the word. I think my main issue with it was the fact that parents argued it's lack of need as they were the ones that should be teaching their children, yet in most cases they are the ones that are clueless when it comes to the stages of puberty, types of contraception/STD
protection and the benefits or drawbacks of each, the different STD/STI's and their symptoms, methods of treatment or importance of getting tested, addressing with confidence the different methods of delaying intimacy/intercourse like masturbation or using sex toys, teaching their children about their body in a way that encourages self exploration and allows them to feel comfortable in who they are as a sexual being. Basically put, how can someone teach something they know nothing about?
Aside from that, most who opposed the curriculum were of the mindset that delaying sexual education/talking about sex would also delay sexual experiences. Sadly, this just isn't the case—in fact it's just the opposite; the more information people have regarding intimacy/intercourse the more likely they are to postpone being
sexually active, or be responsible when they do. That said, just like any other form of education, whether it be mathematics, science, history or geography, sexual education should be left to those who are comfortable with the subject matter and know how to teach it.

SLC: Do you get nervous talking about anything particular in the videos?
KS:  Fortunately there is nothing I'm really uncomfortable talking about, whether it's specific kinks like furries, BDSM or anything else commonly found to be taboo. Of course, I do have exceptions like pedophilia, bestiality and anything that comes in the form of non-consensual sex. Those topics for me are off limits simply because I don't agree with them.

SLC: What topics would you like to cover that you haven't yet?
KS: Over the past 4 years I've made videos on everything I could think of, or was asked about, so I think I've almost covered all the bases. The only thing I haven't really touched on is STD/STI's simply because the information seems to be constantly changing. I think this year I might focus a bit more on offering information
regarding that and differing methods of contraception, just so I know I've provided my viewers with everything they needed to make responsible decisions.
Aside from that, I'm planning on venturing a bit more into the different "kinks" because it's a topic I'm constantly asked about, especially in regard to it's "normalcy." I'm also thinking of possibly starting a podcast for those that like to listen while on the go.

SLC: Who are your sexual inspirations?
KS: When I think of who influenced me most regarding my interest and passion for sexuality, there are quite a few names that come to mind; Sue Johanson, Todd Klinck, Dan Savage and Betty Dodson were the first to challenge my beliefs/concepts of sex, exploration and my own sexuality. Annie Sprinkle, Tristan Taormino, Megan Andelloux,
and Violet Blue helped me to see that teaching about sex/sexuality didn't have to fall under the "text book" style of learning and instead could be fun, interesting, exciting, challenging, open-minded, non-judgmental and liberating. Alfred Kinsey and Dr.Ruth's teachings provided me with a curiosity and drive to learn more. Metis Black (of Tantus Inc) made me question the sex toy industry and fueled my fire to teach about the best products on the market, while also making sure to emphasize the importance of them being "body safe".