Contemplating Female Ejaculation

If you Google "female ejaculation" you will get approximately 13,500,000 hits. It's at moments like this I say "thank you" to the internet for making information more accessible. I can tell you when I was coming of age (no pun intended) female ejaculation wasn't on the radar at all. It was hard enough to get reliable information about birth control and sexually transmitted diseases.

According to some sources, female ejaculation has been written about for centuries. Despite this, the suggestion that women can expel fluid from their bodies as part of arousal remains a somewhat controversial subject. Some argue that it is a merely an attempt to overlay the male sexual experience over the typical female response. Some assert that it remains a limited phenomenon while others suggest it is wider spread than commonly thought.

For those of you for whom this is a new concept, let me summarize. Female ejaculation, also referred to as "gushing" or "squirting" refers to the process by which a woman expels noticeable quantities of clear fluid from the paraurethral ducts, located in her genital area, during or before orgasm. Often it is mistaken for urination or loss of bladder control during sex and provokes a startle response which shuts it off (and sometimes the orgasm as well). One thing current research does seem to agree on is that the fluid expelled is not at all like urine. It has little or no odor and is chemically different from urine. The quantity expelled can vary greatly from almost imperceptible amounts to as high as a pint. There is some suggestion squirting is connected to stimulation of the g-spot, however, this has not been conclusively proven.

The first time I watched this phenomenon was in a porn flick. Frankly I was skeptical at first as porn is often based more on fantasy or on the extraordinary abilities and talents of the actors than on what happens in suburban North America. Then I discovered a video on the Kink Academy site that discusses squirting very matter-of-factly and then proceeds to demonstrate. The women in the video weren't porn stars, though the woman carrying out the demo did say that she gushes regularly. This may have made her exceptional as some women gush once in a lifetime. What elicits this response is still a bit of a mystery.

All of this was interesting to me, but I wasn't losing any sleep over it. My sex life is better now than it has ever been and I've had exceptional experiences in the last year. That being said, I figured I had come close (again no pun intended) to this experience once, but wasn't certain. I mean how do you really know you've experienced a bodily process that remains such a topic of debate and a mystery?

I can now say unequivocally, you will definitely know when it happens! And don't let the skeptics talk you out of what you now know to be true.

Last night, Lady and I were pooped when we crawled into bed. It had been nearly two weeks since my last orgasm, but I was feeling a little restless so asked her permission to break out the wand for a little therapeutic relief. She graciously agreed and cuddled me, as she usually does under such circumstances. My first orgasm occurred almost immediately. My exact words to her were, "That one was ripped from my body." After a short rest, I decided to go for #2. That's when things got very interesting.

I wasn't in a rush for this one, so I took my time and settled the head of the wand in a slightly different position than I usually favor. The stimulation it provided was of a different quality - less intense in one way, but more so in another. I kept wanting to push down with my Kegel muscles as this increased my pleasure. Eventually the tension peaked and I started to wail, but instead of cresting, it went on and on and on. I didn't try to force it or draw back from it. Instead I rode the wave and it kept going. I don't know how much time passed before I felt the first gush. I realized what was happening and didn't pull back from the experience or try to stop it. The wave changed direction slightly but continued on and on. By now, tears were streaming down my face. Lady held on to me and kept me anchored physically and energetically as I moaned and thrashed.

When things finally started to settle and I could speak again, I reached down to the towel underneath me and felt the large wet spot. To say I was pleased with myself is an understatement! It was the most amazing orgasm of my life - and that is saying something after the past year. :)

So to all the sexologists, professors and researchers who have yet to be convinced that female ejaculation is real, perhaps you should take a page from those that seek to observe natural phenomenon in a natural setting or to experience the phenomenon themselves. There is considerable range within human sexual response and not everything about it is easily quantified or recreated under controlled conditions.

Take it from a cougar who has just had her first squirting experience three months shy of her 49th birthday: It is very, very real!